While it's pretty common knowledge that a boyfriend aggressively yelling at you to go blonde is a huge red flag, it's not always so black and white (or, should I say, mahogany and copper). While coloring our hair different shades can be extremely fun, it's also nice to look good for the guy you're with...or is it? (psst...vote on the poll at the bottom to share your opinions!)
Before I met my boyfriend, I was a die-hard redhead...until I found out that he much preferred my natural dark, dark brown (much like the men on the hair color poll--dark brown represent!). Who was I to argue? I much preferred having healthy, albeit natural hair, over interesting but damaged red hair. And I got a lot of flack for it. "Do what makes you happy," people would say. But if your boyfriend prefers your natural look, doesn't that make you happy? And if I get to tell him that I prefer one facial hair style over another, isn't he allowed to have a preference about my hair color?
But what if your guy doesn't prefer your natural color? What if you're a natural blonde, and he likes it when you dye your hair black? Is that an insult, or is it OK for him to express his preference? Well, it all depends on who you are. Some people love changing their hair, and presumably, a voiced preference from a boyfriend or husband could be a fun challenge--you want me to dye it black? Cool! But to people who are pretty steadfast in their one "look", they might see it as an unwelcome demand.
So, here's the rule I like to live by: if you ask, he's allowed to answer. If you don't ask, his criticism better be extremely constructive, or he could just be quiet altogether. If you care what he thinks about your hair (and there's nothing wrong with that), ask him what he thinks and tell him to be totally honest. If you don't care, and just want to do your own thing, let him know that suggestions will not be embraced.